June 18-19, 2005, Selected

SUMMER ROAD TRIP!
CHILDREN AT PLAY!

“I believe men possess more power through healthy fathering than in any other area of their lives. As we consider who will be the real heroes of the coming generation, I’m convinced that fathers…have a great opportunity--to shape the destiny of America one young life at a time."
-- Ken Canfield, Founder and President of the National Center for Fathering

ANY MALE CAN FATHER A CHILD BUT IT TAKES SOMEONE SPECIAL TO BE A FATHER TO A CHILD!

Dad’s Tool Box:

TOOL #1 – THE INSTRUCTION MANUAL!
*** Deut. 6:4-9 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.” [New International Version]

● IN THE LAST 30 DAYS I HAVE INTENTIONALLY TAUGHT MY CHILDREN THE BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE OF ___________________________________!

*** Proverbs 22:6 “Teach your children to choose the right path, and when they are older, they will remain upon it.” [New Living Translation]

● FATHERS NEED TO TEACH THEIR CHILDREN SPIRITUAL THINGS!

● FATHERS NEED TO TEACH THEIR CHILDREN PRACTICAL THINGS!

TOOL #2 – THE HAMMER!
*** Eph. 6:4 “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” [NIV]

● WHAT EXASPERATES A CHILD THE MOST IS INCONSISTANCY!

*** Hebrews 13:7 “Take a good look at the way they live, and let their faithfulness instruct you, as well as their truthfulness. There should be a consistency that runs through us all.” [Message Bible]

TOOLS #3 & 4 – A DROP CLOTH & A PAINTBRUSH!
*** Luke 15:20 "So he returned home to his father. And while he was still a long distance away, his father saw him coming. Filled with love and compassion, he ran to his son, embraced him, and kissed him. ” [NLT]

● IF YOU WANT A SECURE CHILD, A WELL ADAPTED YOUTH AND A PRODUCTIVE YOUNG ADULT, COVER THEM WITH LOVE!

TOOLS #5 & 6 – TAPE MEASURE AND LEVEL!
*** Proverbs 13:24 “A refusal to correct is a refusal to love; love your children by disciplining them.” [Msg]
*** Proverbs 3:12 “For the Lord corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights.” [NLT]
*** Hebrews 12:9-11 “Since we respect our earthly fathers who disciplined us, should we not all the more cheerfully submit to the discipline of our heavenly Father and live forever? For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God's discipline is always right and good for us because it means we will share in his holiness. No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it is painful! But afterward there will be a quiet harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.” [NLT]
*** Proverbs 29:17 “Correct your children, and you will be proud; they will give you satisfaction.” [New Century Version]

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TOOLS #7 & 8 – A SCREWDRIVER & A PRYBAR!
*** Ecc. 8:15 “So I recommend having fun, because there is nothing better for people to do in this world than to eat, drink, and enjoy life. That way they will experience some happiness along with all the hard work God gives them.” [NLT]

“One of the first and most significant contributions a father makes to his child's development comes from play: "What we're talking about here is roughhousing... play provides an opportunity to learn about risk and understanding difference...A perfect example of male and female play styles is the mom who says 'Stop, come down, you are up too high in that tree' and the dad who says, 'Wow, look how high you are!' Children need the balance of these two perspectives. For a child, play is a reflection of real life. Dad's unique role is aimed at preparing his child for real life, while mom's is generally seen as more care giving and protecting. As fathers have been disappearing from children's lives, families have become unbalanced."
-- Dr. Ron Klinger, Common Sense, No-frills, Plain English Guide to Being a Successful Dad

TOOL #9 – BANDAIDS!
*** Eph. 4:32 “Be kind and loving to each other, and forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ.” [NCV]

TOOL #10 – GLUE!
● LOVE YOUR WIFE!
*** Eph. 5:25 “You husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her….” [NLT]

"But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord."
Joshua 24:15 [NLT]