April 23-24, 2005, Selected

DESPERATE HOUSE LIVES!
PARENTING INGREDIENTS!

THREE THINGS EVERY CHILD IS:
A P_______________! A P___________________! A P___________________!

*** Proverbs 22:6 “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” [New International Version]
*** Proverbs 22:6 “Teach your children to choose the right path, and when they are older, they will remain upon it.” [New Living Translation]
*** Proverbs 24:3 “It takes wisdom to have a good family, and it takes understanding to make it strong.” [NCV]

KEY INGREDIENTS TO BEING RESPONSIBLE AND EFFECTIVE PARENTS:
1. C____________________!
*** 1 John 4:7 “Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is born of God and knows God.” [NLT]

COMPASSION MEANS WORDS THAT ________________ NOT ____________!

*** Eph. 4:29 “Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed, so that what you say will do good to those who hear you.” [Today’s English Version]
*** 1 John 3:18 “Dear children, let us stop just saying we love each other; let us really show it by our actions.” [NLT]

· ACTIONS OF __________________! - Eph. 4:32 “Be kind and loving to each other, and forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ.”
· ACTIONS OF __________________ LOVE! - 1 Cor. 13:7 “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” [NLT]

2. C___________________________!
*** Deut. 6:6-7 “These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” [NIV]
*** 2 Tim. 3:14-15 “You must remain faithful to the things you have been taught. You know they are true, for you know you can trust those who taught you. You have been taught the holy Scriptures from childhood, and they have given you the wisdom to receive the salvation that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus.” [NLT]

3. C_________________________!
*** Proverbs 13:24 “If you refuse to discipline your children, it proves you don't love them; if you love your children, you will be prompt to discipline them.” [NLT]
*** Proverbs 19:18 “Discipline your children while there is hope. If you don't, you will ruin their lives.” [NLT]

REFEREE RULES
1. ____________ the Rules! 4. ____________ the Offense!
2. See the ______________! 5. Assess the ____________!
3. Make the ______________! 6. In _______________, everything’s lost!

*** Proverbs 29:17 “Discipline your children; you'll be glad you did — they'll turn out delightful to live with.” [Message Bible]

4. C___________________________!
*** Col. 3:21 “Fathers [Parents], don't aggravate your children. If you do, they will become discouraged and quit trying.” [NLT]
*** Eph. 6:4a “And now a word to you parents. Don't keep on scolding and nagging your children, making them angry and resentful.” [Living Bible]

FIVE NECESSITIES TO BUILDING CONFIDENT KIDS!
1. Physical _______________! 4. _______________!
2. Words of ________________! 5. Acts of ____________!
3. Quality _______________!

*** Mark 10:14 “Jesus…said to them, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.” [NIV]

5. C_________________________!
*** Eccl. 11:8 “People ought to enjoy every day of their lives, no matter how long they live.” [New Century Version]
*** Eccl. 8:15 “So I recommend having fun, because there is nothing better for people to do in this world than to eat, drink, and enjoy life. That way they will experience some happiness along with all the hard work God gives them.” [NLT]
*** Proverbs 17:22 “A happy heart is like good medicine, but a broken spirit drains your strength.” [NCV]

6. C_____________________________!
*** Romans 5:3-4 “We also have joy with our troubles, because we know that these troubles produce patience. And patience produces character, and character produces hope.” [NCV]
*** Luke 16:10, 12 “Whoever can be trusted with a little can also be trusted with a lot, and whoever is dishonest with a little is dishonest with a lot. And if you cannot be trusted with things that belong to someone else, who will give you things of your own?” [NCV]

YOU TEACH RESPONSIBILITY BY:
· ___________________ RESPONSIBILITY! · ___________________ IRRESPONSIBILTY!
· _____________________RESPONSIBILITY!

*** Proverbs 24:16 “Even though good people may be bothered by trouble seven times, they are never defeated, but the wicked are overwhelmed by trouble.” [NCV]

7. C_______________________!
*** Ps. 145:13 “The Lord will keep all his promises; he is loyal to all he has made.”
*** Deut. 31:8 “The Lord himself will go before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forget you. Don't be afraid and don't worry." [NCV]

"It takes wisdom to have a good family, and it takes understanding to make it strong." Proverbs 24:3 [NCV]