Chandler Christian Church Sermon Notes

October 19-20, 2002           WHEN YOUR BACK’S AGAINST THE WALL!                            Selected

WHEN I JUST CAN’T GET OVER IT!

! HOW CAN I DISCOVER THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS? 

BY UNDERSTANDING:

 

1. THE MOTIVATION FOR FORGIVENESS!

WE HAVE THE MOTIVATION FOR FORGIVENESS:

 

A. BY ACKNOWLEDGING THAT GOD HAS FORGIVEN ME!

*** Ephes. 4:32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”  [New International Version]

! IF YOU DON’T FEEL GRACE IT’S HARD TO FUNCTION IN GRACE!

 

B. BY ADMITTING THAT RESENTMENT DOESN’T WORK!

C RESENTMENT IS UNWISE!

*** Job 5:2 “To worry yourself to death with resentment would be a foolish, senseless thing to do.”  [Today’s English Version]

*** Eccles. 7:9 “Only fools get angry quickly and hold a grudge.”  [Contemporary English Version]

C RESENTMENT IS UNHELPFUL!

*** Job 18:4 “You are only hurting yourself with your anger.” [TEV]

C RESENTMENT IS UNHEALTHY!

*** Job 21:23-25 “Some people stay healthy till the day they die; they die happy and at ease….  Others have no happiness at all; they live and die with bitter hearts.” [TEV]

IT’S NOT WHAT YOU EAT AS MUCH AS WHAT EATS YOU THAT AFFECTS YOUR HEALTH!

 

C. BY AGREEING THAT I WILL NEED TO BE FORGIVEN!

*** Matthew 6:15 “But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”  [NIV]

WHEN YOU ARE UNFORGIVING YOU’RE BURNING

THE VERY BRIDGE YOU NEED TO CROSS!

BY FAILING TO FORGIVE THE HURT YOU FAIL TO FEEL THE HEALING!

 

2. THE MISCONCEPTIONS OF FORGIVENESS!

 

A. FORGIVENESS IS NOT MINIMIZING THE SERIOUSNESS OF THE

OFFENSE!

*** Acts 7:60  “Lord, do not hold this sin against them." [NIV]

 

B. FORGIVENESS IS NOT THE INSTANT RESTORATION OF TRUST! *** 1 Cor. 4:2 “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.”  [NIV]

C. FORGIVENESS IS NOT RESUMING THE RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT

CHANGE!

C THE OFFENDED’S TASK IS TO FORGIVE!

C THE OFFENDER’S TASK IS: REPENTENCE, RESTITUTION, REBUILDING!

“Never does the human soul appear so strong and noble as when it forgoes revenge and dares to forgive an injury.” —E.H. Chapin

 

3. THE METHOD OF FORGIVENESS!

 

A. BY RECOGNIZING THAT EVERYONE IS IMPERFECT!

*** Eccles. 7:20 “There is not a single person in all the earth who is always good and never sins.”  [New Living Translation]

C WHEN WE’RE HURT, WE TEND TO HOLD OTHERS TO A STANDARD

THAT EVEN WE CAN’T EVEN KEEP!

 

B. BY RELINQUISHING OUR RIGHT TO REVENGE!

*** Romans 12:19 “Dear friends, never avenge yourselves. Leave that to God, for he has said that he will repay those who deserve it.” [Living Bible]

“I GIVE UP MY RIGHT TO GET EVEN WITH YOU!” – You deserve…

*** Matthew 18:21-22 “Peter came to him and asked, "Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?" "No!" Jesus replied, "seventy times seven!”  [NLT]

 

C. BY RESPONDING TO HURT WITH BLESSING!

*** Luke 6:27-28 “But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” [NIV]

*** 1 Cor. 13:5 “Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.” [NLT]

 

D. BY REFOCUSING OUR WAY ON GOD’S WILL!

*** Job 11:13-16 “Put your heart right…Reach out to God.  Put away evil and wrong…. Then face the world again, firm and courageous.  Then all your troubles will fade from your memory, like floods that are past and remembered no more.”  [TEV]

                                1. PUT YOUR HEART RIGHT!

                        2. REACH OUT TO GOD!

                        3. PUT AWAY EVIL AND WRONG!

                        4. FACE THE WORLD AGAIN!

      RESULT: YOUR TROUBLES WILL FADE FROM YOUR MEMORY!

 

 “Smart people know how to hold their tongue; their grandeur is to forgive and forget.”  Proverbs 19:11 [The Message]